|Our beautiful boy!|
For those of you who know our family, also know how anxious Teddy is and how hard we have worked as a family over the course of the last 3 years. My grief about Nina was only compounded exponentially with grief about Teddy. The first thought that crossed my mind after I found out what was wrong with Nina was "What is this going to do to Teddy?"
Teddy's biggest fear in life has been that we were going to die. Initially, I could not fathom how he would survive this. But over the course of the last 5 days, God has shown us that His provision for Teddy will be magnificent and that Teddy will indeed survive and thrive.
The reality is that despite the outcome, this experience will transform our son. If we get our miracle and Nina survives, then Teddy will be shaped by the healing that surrounded us as a family. If Nina is suppose to go to Heaven, then he will be transformed by the mercy God will pour over us. Perhaps he will want to be the one to find a cure for this (he has always wanted to be a scientist) or perhaps he will want to be a Starbucks barista...does not matter as long as he is strengthened by the gift that his little sister is!
With that in mind, we ask that folks please be mindful and respectful of our son. I really want him to have a wonderful first week of school. Since last Friday, I have been coordinating with the principal at Kellogg and she has ensured that Teddy is surrounded by all his friends and that they as a school are prepared to support us in whatever capacity.
So please keep Teddy in your prayers and please follow the guidelines presented below:
1. Do not ask Teddy anything about his sister related to her illness.
2. Do not ask Teddy any questions related to how he is feeling about his sister being sick, treatment, etc. Let him talk to you and redirect him to us, his parents, for the answers to these questions.
3. Do not cry in front of Teddy or Nina. When you are with us and our children we are HAPPY!!!! There will be a time for tears, but we will follow our son's lead. We will NOT impose any of our emotions on him. That is NOT an acceptable burden to place on a child.
4. Do talk to Teddy about Teddy. Have fun!
5. Do tell Teddy that you love him and enjoy playing with.
6. Do laugh and listen to his stories.
7. Do pray for Teddy to have strength.
8. Do pray that Teddy's anxiety can be conquered.
9. Do pray that we, as his parents, have wisdom in how to best support him.
10. Do enjoy Teddy for Teddy, not because his little sister is sick. Do NOT pity our son. LOVE him!
Bottom-line is that we have two children and they are equally precious and important to us. We are happy to have people who care in our lives but I want to make myself perfectly clear....Todd and I will NOT accept any inappropriate behavior toward our son. If you cannot keep it together....stay away. Just send us a text reminding us you care. Anyone who cannot follow these guidelines will be asked to leave and not return. I do not want to sound harsh, but this is not the time for niceties. I am a ferocious mama bear!!! You have all been warned :)
|Playing at the beach 2 months ago!|
|Cuddling with sister a year ago.|